Benn G., my sweet 27 year old

10 Sep

bennMind you I’m 35 now, so I have no business messing with this boy. BUT Benn G was the really cute 27 year old that I went on all these NYC dates with. Central Park picnic, baking cookies, mini golf on the pier, Happy hours, Street meat. All so fun. I really enjoyed this guys company and by date 6 all of my girlfriends were pressuring me to give up some goods. At this point I had been back to his apartment twice for a heavier make out sessions, but stopped them each time. I did touch his dick once and it was surprisingly large and perfect. I’m pretty easy to please (physically) unlike most girls so size has never really mattered much to me with guys. Still a nice surprise considering he was on the slender side, muscular, but a little tall and lanky.

I got weirded out by this guys somewhat freak side. He carried cufflinks keys on his keychain and would always say how hot it is to put them on a girl during sex. I would joke…please romance me more, then change the topic. So weird! He was really good looking so I tolerated it.

Anyway date 7 rolls around and I invite him over to my place for dinner. He had earlier said he would bring wine. I slave over the kitchen and spend about $100 on groceries making skirt steak and crabcakes from scratch for him with roasted potatoes on the side. I made a bowl of fruit for desert. He comes over empty handed, so I say I don’t think so go across the street and buy us some wine. I knew that night was going to either be great or awful and I at least wanted to know he bought me something. I’m pretty sure I had shaved and prepped all areas full on thinking I was going to have sex with this guys after dinner. I knew beforehand I was going to have some kind of conversation with him if he was seeing anyone else because that’s obviously a no go for me.

I’m a gamer and have an original nintendo and xbox at my place, so we play some old school mario and then decide to get busy. We outgrow the couch and move to my bedroom. I ask him in so many ways if he is seeing anyone and matter of factly he says “oh that’s one thing I’m absolutely not wiling to do. Not going to be exclusive with anyone” I think I was stunned and disgusted at the same time, but kissed him and said well I absolutely cannot sleep with you then. Not going to lie it got a little awkward. I’m straddling him with my dress over my hips and thinking how the fuck do I get off him without being incredibly rude. We actually kissed a few more times because my vag and brain were having a ferocious hateful debate that my brain ultimately won.

I kinda rolled off him and told him I really liked him and I’ll probably make out with him again, but I can’t do this. He laughed and said he really liked me too. He left my apartment shortly after that. I was sad and disappointed, but what was I thinking with a 27 year old anyway?!

I had no desire to text or follow up with him and genuinely felt like a dodged a bullet yet again, but my vag was still really f’ing pissed. Weeks if not a month goes by. I distract myself with Matt S., the British Rugby player and a slew of other usless guys in the meantime.

I invite him and a bunch of people to a group happy hour and he surprises me and shows up.  A lot of people showed up and I had a new guy there I was loosely interested in. Same flirtation started we took turns buying rounds for eachother and then he ferociously made out with me as soon as we walked out of the bar. He was totally trying to kiss my boobs in the cab and I was like slow down. It was HOT though! He does this really weird thing with his tongue though that I hate. Ick!

Anyway we arrive at the next spot a guy friends bday party at Empire hotel. Was kinda a ghetto weird crowd, but good music, so whatever. Benn buys me a drink which I love because he’s so cheap. He’s acting all coupley with me then these girls walk by, not cute mind you, but probably closer to his age, say 30. He’s like hey nice seeing you guys you are so and so right. He proceeds to totally ditch me the rest of the night, which I hardly noticed because I was talking to a bunch of other people at the bday party, but after about an hour I’m like wtf. He walks by me and apologizes saying the girl might be helping him get a job. I don’t really believe it, but I don’t really care either because again he’s 27 and this is stupid. He’s just really cute. Ugh fml!

So I’ve scheduled yet another happy hour again tomorrow that he’s responded that he “maybe” going to on facebook. Maybe he’ll surprise me again and show up and we’ll ferociously make out again. Maybe not. After hanging with all these cheating guys he seems like a breath of fresh air that was at least honest with me. Is this what it’s come down to ladies of NYC? The cheating guys or the guys that just want no strings attached sex? I’m not buying either option, but it makes me sad that as a woman I have no one to be with physically. Makes me kinda want to cry though. I want nothing more than to have a man in my life, but they don’t exist here. Just stupid boy players that are even in their 40s. I feel like eating a box of chocolate chip cookies for dinner. In fact…yes I will do that and then run 8 miles at the gym. I haven’t yet gotten to Matt S. and Leo G which all just happened last week and this week. The cookie thing will make more sense then. I’ll save that for this weekend. As for now I’m officially playing Leo…hee, hee…fucker :).

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Summer in NYC wrap up…please tell me it gets better than this.

10 Sep

So Again I know it’s been some time since I’ve posted, but I’ve had a busy Summer. Not as busy as last Summer, but still busy. I’m still single after almost 2 years and it’s been almost a year since I’ve had sex. I’M DYING! I can’t believe it’s this hard to find monogamous sex in nyc. I just want to be cared about, be able to share the ups and downs of life with someone and get fucked on a regular basis by the same guy and not have to worry about him messing around on the side. Why is that so f’ing hard!??

Let’s see, so the significant characters this year – to date – I guess would be 1. that same guy Mike J. from the 6th floor who has somehow become a good friend and weaseled his way into meeting my family. My Dad now has given his blessing if we get together…barf. So has his mother. Yikes! He’s a no go because he tried to make me jealous by getting with my friend then ended up sleeping with her and dumping her shortly after. Yeah no chance guy! Although I still think of him as a friend.

Then there was 2. Matt S. who I met all the way back in March out at a sceney club here in Manhattan. That came to a screeching halt just last week. Then there was 3. Benn G., then finally 4. Leo G.

Here’s the line up so far of my guy interactions this year, not necessarily just from the Summer. By interactions I mean making out and by making out I mean I kissed all of these guys. Only 4 of them were more serious where I was considering having sex with each one of them. Well let’s be honest…I “considered” having sex with all of them, but sadly did not with any of them…sigh.

Jon  33
Alexis O 42
***Shlok 31
***Matt S. 30
Sean J. 23
Steve F. 33
Mike J. 35
John J. 37
David 34
Benn G. 27
Ryzard C. 24
Guy from world cup 25
Joe C.  26
Steve  33
Random blonde guy ?
Abel 32
***Leonardo G.  Said he was 35, but actually 40

These guys all were educated and good looking. 4 were in investment banking, 2 were in private equity, 1 was a rugby player. Other occupations were insurance sales, Real estate, Psychotherapy, Art dealer, IT, Personal Trainer/Promoter (lol), lawyer and Doctor. The names with Asterisks are guys who had long term (we are talking YEARS) girlfriends. I met these guys a combination of being out in the city and on Tinder. I’m not mentioning the NBA guys house I went to in NJ because I wouldn’t kiss him. I did stay the night though. He was really young. Ugh!

I tried to focus my efforts more this year by sticking with older guys, but I’m saddened and kinda heart broken that 2 of the more long term/attentive guys (Matt S and Leo G) that I talked to both had girlfriends.

I have been motivated to write on this blog because of the experiences I’ve had with these two boys in the last 2 weeks. Mind you there has been overlap with some of these guys, but was only a week if that.

Please do read on….

 

NYC Breeds Smart Trashy men!

11 Jun

So I know it’s been awhile, but I’ve been busy living it up in NYC what can I say. I’ve reread some of my old posts and wondered what guy I was talking about in each post to eventually remember with a smile on my face. Funny that I’m close friends with both those boys in my building that tried to get with me years ago. Actually there have been 3 more from the building that have tried to get with me and I’m friends with all of them. One was 26, now 27, other is 34 and last one is 42. 6th Floor guy is kinda one of my best guy friends now actually. I suspect he has some kind of weird crush on me now though. He tells me he loves me all the time and I deeply care for him. So that’s all warm and fuzzy. He’s been sober for over a year now and has a great job at a private equity firm. I’m really happy for him. I’ve spent holidays with his family and he’s gone on family vacations with me. He recently told me that I’ve always been his girl and that he’s been ready to settle down for years. He added that he’s only slept with 3 girls in 2 years, which I only half believe. I’d consider him for something serious, but he has a totally warped sense of what a committed relationship should look like. For him it’s okay to gawk at every girl that walks by and flirt with them. To me that’s entirely disrespectful when you are in a relationship. If I’m your friend it’s cool, but when you want to sleep with me…no thanks. He also slept with one of my girlfriends last year, which kinda disgusts me to no end. They were girlfriend and boyfriend at the time and he tried to date me before he chose to start talking to her and asked me to make a choice. I wouldn’t / couldn’t and I guess that pissed him off, so he banged my friend and told me all the details. They were only together for a few months, but still…gross! Barf!

At any rate, I’ve been casually dating a 27 year old that is super cute. He’s way younger than me though and super cheap. Has only treated me to one drink in 4 dates. No bueno! Tomorrow is supposed to be our 5th date. We’ve done the cutest things like vino in central park with street meat, miniature golf and now wants to go ice skating. I’m really attracted to him, but by no means am I ready to be physical with him. Side note…I’ve frequently been faded out by guys because I don’t put out. It’s sad every time it happens because there’s nothing I’d want more than to practically rape the guys, but I just need more time and comfort before I take a guy seriously and for me sex is serious. I’m planning on telling him I really like him and am really attracted to him, but I’m just not ready yet. It makes it a little more awkward because I’ve been friends with 2 of his guy friends for like 2 years. Those boys both tried to get with me over the years and I shot them down in so many ways because they were too young for me. He’s the same age go figure, but way cuter. I just don’t want anything about us getting back to those guys. Ugh!

I’m not like the average nyc girl…sure I’m a mouth whore and kiss about on average 3 guys a week, but I just do that for entertainment while waiting for someone special. I genuinely love men and like being close to them. I’m looking for someone serious though. I’ve been single now for a year and a half. I’m tired of meeting new guys. 99% of them are trash.

All of my girlfriends have the same problem in NYC. These girls are very attractive as well. All the guys want are one night or 2nd night stands and they move on. I’m smarter than that though and don’t give those dbags anything.

My latest thing has been going after nerdy guys…but even they are dirty players. I was seeing Matt who worked in Investment Banking at Credit Suisse for a few months sporadically and once he came back to my apartment and I said in so many ways I wasn’t ready… he did the slow fade. Kinda broke my heart because I thought that nerdy = sweet. I was really stretching to be attracted to him. I was so disappointed to realize that even when I’m way more attractive than the guy he’ll still choose casual, dirty, less attractive sex vs cultivating something strong and real with a beautiful girl.

What’s it going to take for me to find an attractive smart guy to sleep with exclusively and spend time with?? Am I really asking for that much? What have you girls experienced in other big cities? Should I move and leave NYC forever?

I’m Curvy and Mainly Attract Disrespectful Overly Horny Guys

4 Aug

Is there something wrong with me or something wrong with guys?

Of course pof is addicting like crack. You log on that site and you have 10 new emails and 5 chat requests in like 7 minutes, so I have naturally been spending more time there from a numbers perspective. You already know from previous posts that the guys here are less educated and successful, but I’ve still noticed a trend here that you are more likely to get past email and actually meet someone in person.  I’m talking even with phds, physicians and finance traders that are more well suited for me purely from an intellectual perspective.

I recently met a Bond Trader living in NJ, but working in Midtown. He was the most polite guy that I have ever been on a date with or spoken to on the phone. He never said anything inappropriate.  He just didn’t have a jawline! I hate to say that because he was so nice. It was like all the fat in his body was in his face. I just couldn’t date him.

The rest of them have been so rude and disrespectful. It makes me wonder if it’s because of the way I’m shaped or the way I present myself. Or maybe it’s just this disgusting pof.com site and all girls are dealing with this same phenomena. Girls please weigh in here.

A little about how I look…I’ve always had attention from men since I was like 10, which is gross and always made me feel weird. I think since I had curves at such a young age I attracted older grabby guys, but it also turned me into the very conservative person that I am today. I have an hourglass figure. Not fat-curvy by any means. I have more of a JLo, Kim Kardashian figure (without the huge boobs 😉 ) .  I have only slept with 2 men. One in college that I was with for 7 years and the other when I moved to NYC for 5 years. So I’m not a whore and don’t appreciate being treated by one or talked to like one. What ever happened to guys with manners? Why do they think they can ask for pictures of me through text? We all know where that leads. I was stupid enough to send one, then came, “send me a picture of your butt in a thong”, then “send me a picture of you in a bikini”. I did that too…I’ll note only because this guy was a male model and had been in blockbuster movies and was SUPER HOT! It didn’t take long to see he was turning me into his little puppet, so I stopped communication with him. More importantly he stopped communication with me when he realized he wasn’t going to get what he wanted out of me. I’m not really sure what came first. Aside from that I totally regret sending those text images because he kept wanting more and more.  Insatiable!  I stopped it with that guy and I make it a rule to not send any pictures to any guy through text. In fact, they lose points when they ask for any.

I’m just wondering if other girls that have more boyish figures encounter the same treatment? I have full length pictures of me in dresses on my online profile that are figure hugging, but not short with my ass hanging out or anything. I’ve always considered myself a nice/classy dresser, but am just confused now. Am I sending wrong messages or are guys total jerks?

Any information from other girls experience would be helpful. Maybe I should just get off pof lol.

No dates for me this weekend!!! Have a great one peeps!

Hurricane Club NYC Review

31 Jul

 

 

 

 

 

 


Hurricane Club

360 Park Avenue South  New York, NY 10010
(212) 951-7111

I went to Hurricane Club on Saturday night with a group of about 8 or so and just had to write about how much I loved it. It’s an upscale place with a sophisticated crowd and you can just walk right in, no lines or bouncers. The reason is because this is kind of like STK where it’s a restaurant and a bar. If you like STK, you’ll love this place. I would say it’s appropriate to anyone in their late 20s on up. Primarily it seemed like there were 30s and early 40 year olds on Saturday.

The drink and food menu has a tropical Hawaiian feel, which doesn’t really fit the venue in my opinion, but everything was still good. The only thing that was a little odd was the tightness around the bar. We were a group of 8 and we couldn’t really hang anywhere without impeding traffic, which was annoying, so maybe only bring 4 or 5 friends ;).

Apparently this place is best on a Thursday or Friday. On Saturday we noticed it was really dying down around 12am, so keep that in mind when planning out your night.

I highly recommend visiting this place before the Summer is over. Cheers!

Dating Guys that Live in Your Building

30 Jul

Ok, so I’m not sure if I posted this before,  but last year I sorta hooked up (PG) with a guy that lives in my building on the 6th Floor. This guy isn’t the most attractive guy in the world, but he was and is super smart. If guys that can’t write a proper sentence or type in all caps piss me off to no-end, a guy that is super smart will definitely be a turn on. He went to one of the best undergrad schools in the country and also got a business degree from the same school. So by no means is he an idiot…academically speaking.

The 6th floor guy from last year was actually the first guy in NYC that took me out on a proper date since before him I was in a 7 year relationship and then a 5 year relationship. I met the 7 year relationship guy in college, so there was no dinning or taking out. I met the 5 year guy about 5 months after splitting from the 7 year guy and just needed company, so I was willing to accept anything in terms of dating venues and guys for that matter. He took me out for a slice of pizza in Little Italy for our first date and he didn’t even eat, so you can’t really call it a formal date. He leeched on to me for a long 5 years after that, but I was the idiot that let it happen.

I’ll add a formal post on what went down with this guy last year. In short he’s a mess! But he likes to creep back in my life whenever we see each other in the lobby. He’s even gone so far to tell me in the street that he’s had dreams about me saving him. He’s told me he wants to give me babies, BUT…he’s a drunk, has had episodes of serious drug abuse, gambles too often, and loses jobs frequently. Who knows how we pays his massive mortgage, but not my problem. Right?

I’m a chatty patty and I love my doormen and the building staff, so I’m always in the lobby talking to these guys. On Friday night I see the 6th floor guy I hooked up with last year and he’s covered in bruises. Not surprising because he’s a mess, but he asks me to go out with him to a neighborhood spot. He’s dangerous, so I’m not really interested, but at the same time, I’m really worried about him and his self destructive ways. It’s like the dysfunction draws me in, which is messed up, so I stay further away.

I’m still hanging in the lobby when 20 mins later this other guy in my building walks by that lives on the 21st floor.  I’ve always thought this guy looked so cute in a suit and tie and he tells me I look gorgeous. I’m like what the hell?!? This guy never says more than 5 words to me and now he thinks I’m gorgeous? He walks back in the building and I realize he is way too talkative as he’s chatting me and the doormen up. He’s definitely been drinking. Whatever…if the liquid courage got you what you need to talk to me….keep talking.

So he goes back up to his apartment and I walk my pups. I see him on the street 5 mins later and he invites me out. I like doing random, yet safe things so I say yes. He walks with me and my pups since he also has a dog and says he’ll wait for me. Before we get back to our building he runs into 2 girls he used to work with and is like verbally vomiting on these two girls about how he got laid off/fired. I’m like great another loser guy! He just kept rambling to these girls and I felt awkward and embarrassed for him. This should have been a warning sign, but I’m an idiot and we go out to LES around 2am.

He’s all like I know a promoter at Hotel Chantelle  and we can get right in. I’m like ok whatever. Clearly his promoter was taking a while and I also knew someone there promoting named Lisa and texted her and we got right in bouncing the huge line. Once we are in we finally get to interact a little and I can’t tell if this guy is just really drunk or just weird. No wonder he never spoke before. It was like I said “up”, he would say “down”. I would try to say a joke and he would take serious offense to it. It was like we were speaking different languages. I was really turned off by this, but I like to understand things so I stayed. Plus he bought me two drinks and was very protective and polite, which was nice. He did try grabbing and holding my hand multiple times, which I thought was annoying. I’m thinking “I don’t know you…get off me”. Again, all these guys are so grabby. I have a tiny waist and curvy hips, so guys are always touching that and it get’s annoying. Don’t touch my hand or my waist until I give you the green light. At least wait till the 2nd date. This wasn’t even a date!

So all of the sudden we were with 3 other people and we were trying to remember who sang a song together. There were girls laughing and just being drunk, flirty, and silly and 21st floor guy get’s all pissed and says they were “clowning him”. This guy clearly has self esteem issues or something. Before I know it he’s saying he’s got to go and just decides for us that we are leaving. I have to quickly say my goodbyes and I turn around and he’s gone. Luckily I got a glimpse of him out the door talking to car service.

I run out the door and I ask him if he’s leaving me…shit we can share cab fare you know. He’s like “No, I thought you would like it if I got us a cab”. There were like none around, so he “negotiates” paying $20 to go from LES to Midtown East. Fucking idiot! He also wanted to “take care” of our driver and he had no cash. So I ended up paying the $20 and he gave him a $10 tip. What an idiot!

So we finally get home to our shared building after only being gone for an hour. Weird! I want to end the night, but this is where it gets tricky. We get in the elevator and I press both our floors. He’s acting awkward and he’s like “don’t you still want to hang out?” I’m thinking no I don’t want to hook up with you just leave me alone, but he follows me off my elevator and I have to rush back to my apartment to avoid my dogs barking and waking up neighbors. Fuck! So now this guy is in my apartment. And to make matters worse he’s acting like he wants to move in. WTF!?! He eventually kisses me, but it was a really wet kiss that included him licking from half way down my chin to then sucking on my bottom lip. What the hell is wrong with guys? I definitely had to wipe my face off after that kiss…GROSS! Please God why do you put all the weirdos in my path? And why are they all such bad kissers. Almost every guy I’ve kissed in my 30s has been a disgusting kisser. Is this why they are all still single? Ugh!

He says he wants to take me out to wine and dinner on the following night which would have been Saturday, but I had a bday party to go to at Fontana bar. I invite him to come and he’s like yeah we can go get a drink and then go there. I’m like cool and don’t worry about anything else. I just want him out of my apartment.

Saturday comes and we text in the morning and he is sweet. I think I’m sweet back, but I don’t like texting all day with no purpose at the same time. He says he’s going to take a nap and I respond “Talk later”. He responds “What?” and again I feel like I’m explaining or defending myself. WTF?!? I know guys sometimes have fragile egos, but this was extreme.

Hours go by and around 8:30 he tells me he’s sick and is staying in. What a fucking nut job!

It turned out I had a blast on Saturday with like 8 of my friends and met up with another 20 people at the bday party. The company was great, but I wouldn’t recommend Fontana bar. It’s too divey, definitely not a Saturday night spot.

In fact, one of the guys there was hitting on me all night and tried to even crash in my loft, but I wasn’t having it. What is it going to take to have a normal, attractive, compatible guy walk into my life? Sigh!

At any rate, the guy I dated from last year on the 6th floor that same night sent me a text around 4:25am responding to my text the day earlier. The only thing I texted was that I worry about him.  He responded a day later “Haha, go fuck urself. U don’t care and I don’t deserve it” then immediately called me to ask if we could “cuddle”. Insanity!

He apologized for that whacked out text on Sunday and asked me to go see the Batman movie. I made an excuse. Ugh! What’s wrong with guys. These are supposedly the smart high earning guys too. Are all us girls screwed?