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I’m Curvy and Mainly Attract Disrespectful Overly Horny Guys

4 Aug

Is there something wrong with me or something wrong with guys?

Of course pof is addicting like crack. You log on that site and you have 10 new emails and 5 chat requests in like 7 minutes, so I have naturally been spending more time there from a numbers perspective. You already know from previous posts that the guys here are less educated and successful, but I’ve still noticed a trend here that you are more likely to get past email and actually meet someone in person.  I’m talking even with phds, physicians and finance traders that are more well suited for me purely from an intellectual perspective.

I recently met a Bond Trader living in NJ, but working in Midtown. He was the most polite guy that I have ever been on a date with or spoken to on the phone. He never said anything inappropriate.  He just didn’t have a jawline! I hate to say that because he was so nice. It was like all the fat in his body was in his face. I just couldn’t date him.

The rest of them have been so rude and disrespectful. It makes me wonder if it’s because of the way I’m shaped or the way I present myself. Or maybe it’s just this disgusting pof.com site and all girls are dealing with this same phenomena. Girls please weigh in here.

A little about how I look…I’ve always had attention from men since I was like 10, which is gross and always made me feel weird. I think since I had curves at such a young age I attracted older grabby guys, but it also turned me into the very conservative person that I am today. I have an hourglass figure. Not fat-curvy by any means. I have more of a JLo, Kim Kardashian figure (without the huge boobs 😉 ) .  I have only slept with 2 men. One in college that I was with for 7 years and the other when I moved to NYC for 5 years. So I’m not a whore and don’t appreciate being treated by one or talked to like one. What ever happened to guys with manners? Why do they think they can ask for pictures of me through text? We all know where that leads. I was stupid enough to send one, then came, “send me a picture of your butt in a thong”, then “send me a picture of you in a bikini”. I did that too…I’ll note only because this guy was a male model and had been in blockbuster movies and was SUPER HOT! It didn’t take long to see he was turning me into his little puppet, so I stopped communication with him. More importantly he stopped communication with me when he realized he wasn’t going to get what he wanted out of me. I’m not really sure what came first. Aside from that I totally regret sending those text images because he kept wanting more and more.  Insatiable!  I stopped it with that guy and I make it a rule to not send any pictures to any guy through text. In fact, they lose points when they ask for any.

I’m just wondering if other girls that have more boyish figures encounter the same treatment? I have full length pictures of me in dresses on my online profile that are figure hugging, but not short with my ass hanging out or anything. I’ve always considered myself a nice/classy dresser, but am just confused now. Am I sending wrong messages or are guys total jerks?

Any information from other girls experience would be helpful. Maybe I should just get off pof lol.

No dates for me this weekend!!! Have a great one peeps!

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Dating Guys that Live in Your Building

30 Jul

Ok, so I’m not sure if I posted this before,  but last year I sorta hooked up (PG) with a guy that lives in my building on the 6th Floor. This guy isn’t the most attractive guy in the world, but he was and is super smart. If guys that can’t write a proper sentence or type in all caps piss me off to no-end, a guy that is super smart will definitely be a turn on. He went to one of the best undergrad schools in the country and also got a business degree from the same school. So by no means is he an idiot…academically speaking.

The 6th floor guy from last year was actually the first guy in NYC that took me out on a proper date since before him I was in a 7 year relationship and then a 5 year relationship. I met the 7 year relationship guy in college, so there was no dinning or taking out. I met the 5 year guy about 5 months after splitting from the 7 year guy and just needed company, so I was willing to accept anything in terms of dating venues and guys for that matter. He took me out for a slice of pizza in Little Italy for our first date and he didn’t even eat, so you can’t really call it a formal date. He leeched on to me for a long 5 years after that, but I was the idiot that let it happen.

I’ll add a formal post on what went down with this guy last year. In short he’s a mess! But he likes to creep back in my life whenever we see each other in the lobby. He’s even gone so far to tell me in the street that he’s had dreams about me saving him. He’s told me he wants to give me babies, BUT…he’s a drunk, has had episodes of serious drug abuse, gambles too often, and loses jobs frequently. Who knows how we pays his massive mortgage, but not my problem. Right?

I’m a chatty patty and I love my doormen and the building staff, so I’m always in the lobby talking to these guys. On Friday night I see the 6th floor guy I hooked up with last year and he’s covered in bruises. Not surprising because he’s a mess, but he asks me to go out with him to a neighborhood spot. He’s dangerous, so I’m not really interested, but at the same time, I’m really worried about him and his self destructive ways. It’s like the dysfunction draws me in, which is messed up, so I stay further away.

I’m still hanging in the lobby when 20 mins later this other guy in my building walks by that lives on the 21st floor.  I’ve always thought this guy looked so cute in a suit and tie and he tells me I look gorgeous. I’m like what the hell?!? This guy never says more than 5 words to me and now he thinks I’m gorgeous? He walks back in the building and I realize he is way too talkative as he’s chatting me and the doormen up. He’s definitely been drinking. Whatever…if the liquid courage got you what you need to talk to me….keep talking.

So he goes back up to his apartment and I walk my pups. I see him on the street 5 mins later and he invites me out. I like doing random, yet safe things so I say yes. He walks with me and my pups since he also has a dog and says he’ll wait for me. Before we get back to our building he runs into 2 girls he used to work with and is like verbally vomiting on these two girls about how he got laid off/fired. I’m like great another loser guy! He just kept rambling to these girls and I felt awkward and embarrassed for him. This should have been a warning sign, but I’m an idiot and we go out to LES around 2am.

He’s all like I know a promoter at Hotel Chantelle  and we can get right in. I’m like ok whatever. Clearly his promoter was taking a while and I also knew someone there promoting named Lisa and texted her and we got right in bouncing the huge line. Once we are in we finally get to interact a little and I can’t tell if this guy is just really drunk or just weird. No wonder he never spoke before. It was like I said “up”, he would say “down”. I would try to say a joke and he would take serious offense to it. It was like we were speaking different languages. I was really turned off by this, but I like to understand things so I stayed. Plus he bought me two drinks and was very protective and polite, which was nice. He did try grabbing and holding my hand multiple times, which I thought was annoying. I’m thinking “I don’t know you…get off me”. Again, all these guys are so grabby. I have a tiny waist and curvy hips, so guys are always touching that and it get’s annoying. Don’t touch my hand or my waist until I give you the green light. At least wait till the 2nd date. This wasn’t even a date!

So all of the sudden we were with 3 other people and we were trying to remember who sang a song together. There were girls laughing and just being drunk, flirty, and silly and 21st floor guy get’s all pissed and says they were “clowning him”. This guy clearly has self esteem issues or something. Before I know it he’s saying he’s got to go and just decides for us that we are leaving. I have to quickly say my goodbyes and I turn around and he’s gone. Luckily I got a glimpse of him out the door talking to car service.

I run out the door and I ask him if he’s leaving me…shit we can share cab fare you know. He’s like “No, I thought you would like it if I got us a cab”. There were like none around, so he “negotiates” paying $20 to go from LES to Midtown East. Fucking idiot! He also wanted to “take care” of our driver and he had no cash. So I ended up paying the $20 and he gave him a $10 tip. What an idiot!

So we finally get home to our shared building after only being gone for an hour. Weird! I want to end the night, but this is where it gets tricky. We get in the elevator and I press both our floors. He’s acting awkward and he’s like “don’t you still want to hang out?” I’m thinking no I don’t want to hook up with you just leave me alone, but he follows me off my elevator and I have to rush back to my apartment to avoid my dogs barking and waking up neighbors. Fuck! So now this guy is in my apartment. And to make matters worse he’s acting like he wants to move in. WTF!?! He eventually kisses me, but it was a really wet kiss that included him licking from half way down my chin to then sucking on my bottom lip. What the hell is wrong with guys? I definitely had to wipe my face off after that kiss…GROSS! Please God why do you put all the weirdos in my path? And why are they all such bad kissers. Almost every guy I’ve kissed in my 30s has been a disgusting kisser. Is this why they are all still single? Ugh!

He says he wants to take me out to wine and dinner on the following night which would have been Saturday, but I had a bday party to go to at Fontana bar. I invite him to come and he’s like yeah we can go get a drink and then go there. I’m like cool and don’t worry about anything else. I just want him out of my apartment.

Saturday comes and we text in the morning and he is sweet. I think I’m sweet back, but I don’t like texting all day with no purpose at the same time. He says he’s going to take a nap and I respond “Talk later”. He responds “What?” and again I feel like I’m explaining or defending myself. WTF?!? I know guys sometimes have fragile egos, but this was extreme.

Hours go by and around 8:30 he tells me he’s sick and is staying in. What a fucking nut job!

It turned out I had a blast on Saturday with like 8 of my friends and met up with another 20 people at the bday party. The company was great, but I wouldn’t recommend Fontana bar. It’s too divey, definitely not a Saturday night spot.

In fact, one of the guys there was hitting on me all night and tried to even crash in my loft, but I wasn’t having it. What is it going to take to have a normal, attractive, compatible guy walk into my life? Sigh!

At any rate, the guy I dated from last year on the 6th floor that same night sent me a text around 4:25am responding to my text the day earlier. The only thing I texted was that I worry about him.  He responded a day later “Haha, go fuck urself. U don’t care and I don’t deserve it” then immediately called me to ask if we could “cuddle”. Insanity!

He apologized for that whacked out text on Sunday and asked me to go see the Batman movie. I made an excuse. Ugh! What’s wrong with guys. These are supposedly the smart high earning guys too. Are all us girls screwed?

Another Loser!

25 Jul

It hasn’t even been 24 hours and another idiot guy is on the prowl. Why don’t these jerks just leave the nice girls alone? This idiot can’t even spell! Read his message below….


sirgulaxx

7/17/2012 1:50:11 AM

“you look ok so i may bang you nor sure yet”

 

Sadly this is the 2nd time this loser has sent me an email, which means he goes on the blocked list. Fucking idiot!

Please tell me do girls ever respond and engage with this kind of material?

****UPDATE*****

Wow, I’m sorry… there was actually more to this douchebag’s message. It’s disheartening to paste:

 
sirgulaxx

7/25/2012 4:23:35 PM

“as long as you let me to f*ck that ass i ll explore everything with you”

 

Again, notice the sophistication in word choice and correct usage of punctuation.

It’s moments like these that make me want to pull myself out of the dating world, but I know mr. right is somewhere out there.

This asshole is definitely getting blocked. F*ck you sirgulaxx!

What’s wrong with Guys?

25 Jul

I go to my email box this morning and I have another message on Plentyoffish.com. I look at the guys pictures first and thought hmmm he’s cute I hope he wrote something nice. I check the message and this is what I found :

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

rollwithit30

7/25/2012 8:00:14 AM

Sit on my face?

 

Will someone please help me understand what’s wrong with guys?

He’s obviously another delete. And my mother wonders why I’m not married!?! I’ll never get married if this is all that’s out there. Sigh!

Loser Guys Get Tips on How to Get Laid via Meetup.com

18 Jun

I was surprised when I was going through Meetup.com looking for networking opportunities to find this group

” New York area Get Better Dating Women meetup group “. The search term I looked up was “Business Networking”, so your guess is as good as mine why this group popped up.

It’s a group of guys or PUA’s pronounced Poooahs (a.k.a Pick Up Artists – Yes, I had to Google that to figure out the meaning!) dedicated to helping guys to get laid or build up the confidence to “get the girl they want”. I read some of the group reviews because everything else is hidden from non members and was disgusted! Continue reading for some shocking quoted reviews of the group!

“ I just took a bootcamp with these guys and saw immediate results. I got into the community about 6 months ago. I spent about $2500 on other companies and got no results. I took a bootcamp with these guys and I got laid the night of my bootcamp and got laid two days later. Deciding to take this bootcamp was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. They will push you to your limits and make sure you get results. One of the coaches I worked with was Greg, an awesome PUA down here in Miami. He helped me with the logistics and made sure I sealed the deal. Each of us who took the bootcamp was given a goal at the beginning of the night and the coaches made sure we all accomplished our goal, whether it was a number, an isolation, or a kiss close. Everyone who has ever wanted to get good at pickup or wanted to have choice in the women they date should definitely do this bootcamp. You can not find a price close to this with any other company. ”

— on Apr 14, 2010.

I want to know the names of the idiot girls that slept with this loser? Please Miami…talk to me?!?

I mean where are the bootcamps for ladies on how to reject douchebag guys that are trying to treat you like prostitutes? While you are at it emasculate them and have them running to mommy! It’s the same kind of disrespect for your fellow human being. When did copulation turn into a game of search and destroy? How did we let it get this far ladies? And why do so many of you dumb girls keep playing this game with these undeserving men?

I did a quick search on douchebags and this is comically what I found lol.

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Even though there is no official group on “How to spot a Douchebag” yet, there f’ing should be to protect all you retardo girls out there. When are you ladies going to learn… SEX IS A WEAPON. When you hand over your weapon you have no leverage…which is why you don’t get a call back. You were gifted with great curves and sensuality, now use your brain and use those assets. It’s a great POWER that for some reason most of us women don’t use. WTF?!?

Smarten up ladies! Don’t make me hunt you down and bitch slap you!

Ugly Guys on Dating Websites! WTF?!?

21 Sep

Have you all noticed how many unattractive guys there are on all the dating sites? I’m talking match.com, chemistry.com, pof.com, eharmony.com. And why do these ugly guys always seem to be my match despite height, body type and hair type preferences. When I say no bald guys, I mean NO f’ing baldies! Also no one over 38 means that if you are in your 50s you are my parents age and don’t have a chance in hell with me. Go after people your own age you dirty creeps! It’s not that hard. Worse yet the somewhat decent guys, seem to want to get laid on the first date.

Who are all you bitches out there making these guys think that A. If they are ugly they can talk to pretty girls. B. If they have money that looks and hygiene don’t matter. C. If you are somewhat cute…I mean a 5 out of 10 you think you can hook up with me on date 1 and even try sleeping with me.? I don’t care if you have all the money in the world. Don’t treat me like an f’ing pro because I’m not. Go get a hooker and leave me the hell alone!

Girls I’m serious if we demand more from guys they will deliver or else be forced to pay for sex or get it from the strictly ugly girls. I don’t know any girl that has ever thoroughly enjoyed a one night stand…which it WILL BE if you sleep with him on the first date no matter what he tells you. They are awkward and sloppy. You can’t get off with a partner that doesn’t give two shits about you because he’s in it for himself. A two pump chump if you will. So don’t waste your time. Nor will he leave his wife for you so take out your moral compass and get your dildo out. Take care of business on your own before ruining a family over your own insecurities. You are better than that and don’t need to be validated by any guy that only wants sex or to make out. Validate your self with self-acceptance over the situation that you are better than this jerk and your true soul mate is out there waiting for you. If you can’t follow this simple golden woman rule do it for all the other girls that you will be screwing over in your wake after your one night stand. Men are sometimes stupid and they repeatedly do what has worked once and will make you feel bad if you try to reject this abhorrent behavior. Don’t fall for it. Give this new found jerk what he really deserves… a nice case of blue balls.

Guys…step up your game. Take a girl out to a nice place, get her a drink and buy her something to eat and keep your shit in your pants.