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Finale is fun, but I still have a headache

25 Sep

So I went out on Tuesday to Finale with my neighbor who is married. This isn’t typical Tuesday night behavior, but last week I busted her Two Timing husband bringing home a hooker. He’s a loaded bond trader, so not sure if she’s actually going to leave him, but she’s been itching to go out, so I oblige. I’m assuming she’s kicked him out for the meantime because I actually haven’t seen him in about a week. Tough place for a girl to be in, but you know my rule. Tell anyone and everyone if you see cheating. Also dude in your own home where your friend lives down the hall…smarten up you idiot! There are hotels for that.

Anyway, we call some promoters and get in fine. It’s kinda dead at first at 12 midnight, but within 30 minutes it was getting packed. Around 1 am you could hardly move. Screen Shot 2014-09-25 at 2.12.58 PM

The promoter named Krispie that we know had our group set up at a table upstairs across from the DJ. There were some really young banged up girls at this table, but who cares. They were pouring drinks for free and we opened wide. We found our selves standing next to a roped off area and assumed that was VIP. We are singing and dancing and a girl starts talking to us on the other side of the rope. We instantly become friends because she’s sweet and fun. She’s one of the managers at Finale and The General. Then another promoter steals us and invites us to his VIP table inside the roped off area. This always happens at some point thankfully, so we go in. All the sudden we hear that Shaggy is there and this guy named Snootie Wild. Shaggy I know, but this other cat who knows. Snootie starts to perform and I’m like omg I think I know this song.

 

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After Snootie Wild performs I see him next to our VIP area in another roped off area checking me out, so I go up and ask for a picture with him. After that he asks for my number lol. This is not the type of guy I would ever date. In fact any artist is probably in the undateable category. I had met French Montana over the Summer as well, but didn’t exchange numbers. I think rappers might have a thing for me…as well as NBA guys since I met Kyrie Irving over the Summer at Avenue and was even invited back to his house in NJ to hang lol. More on that later.

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The night that was supposed to end at 1:30 went till after 4am. I think I saw my girlfriend kissing some dude on the couch. Good for her! Bitch left me there though when we live down the hall from each other wtf. Who knows if she brought that guy home or not. I kinda hope she did. I myself ended up making out with some Dominican 23 year old lol. Awful aggressive kisser…oh well. I’ll add him to the list. His name was Iran lol. AND is Dominican!! How does that happen lol?

Anyway this debauchery has totally f’d up my week. Now it’s Thursday and the Thursday crew is all calling me up and wanting to go out. PhD is always a possibility, but I’m tired. I just want to find a guy that gives me a reason to stay home. Why is this so hard?! Maybe I should just watch a romcom and cry my eyes out…

….oh yeah no I can’t. I have another date tonight with a guy name Krishna that I met and made out with last week. He’s an Indian Hedgefund guy that was born and raised here. I’m not really into Indian guys, but he’s kinda cute and his personality is a lot like mine. We’ll see. Hopefully he’s a gentlemen and doesn’t ask to go down on me after an hour of knowing eachother…le sigh.

So that guy Chris from Mon texted me wanting to hang out again next week. I told him we were looking for different things and then he attacked me saying I’m too much of a party girl. Yeah whatever guy… rejection sucks…deal with it slut.

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Leonardo G. cheating on his girlfriend of 5 years….BUSTED!

22 Sep

Let me begin with this:

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Yup you guessed it. Another guy with a long term girlfriend of like 5 years trying to get with me. Silly boys…don’t you know us smart girls will always find out. Let’s hope this woman is actually independent and strong and ditches the dude like I did.

This time it only took me a little over a month to catch on to this idiot. He took me out on a number of dates, stayed out with me past 2:30am a number of times, introduced me to his work friends, cross fit friends and jiu jitsu friends and sadly had a serious girlfriend. He may have even lived with her. The one flag was that he never invited me over to his place. He always wanted to come over to my apartment. Then had a series of excuses of being in between apartments and back and forth from Brooklyn, NJ and Manhattan.

I had seen him months ago on pof.com, but actually met him on Tinder. You may criticize me and say what are you doing looking for anything substantial on those bullshit sites, but I actually know people that have boyfriends from Tinder now. You never know, so that’s why.

You may recognize him or maybe it’s best you don’t lol…

Leo

I’ve decided my stance is always going to be to tell the other woman if I find out and I always do. I’m thankful I never slept with Leo although he tried desperately. We got pretty close though, which is why I went into high stalk mode and thankfully found his girlfriend online. I have to say ladies if your guy has a hidden or made up name or adds a middle initial on facebook and/or never posts anything about the two of you…he’s shady and most likely pulling tail on the side.

I’m thinking I will add pics of this guys texts to me, so you can see how good he was. I had told him I had never been intimate with a guy that wasn’t my boyfriend, so he even asked me to be his girlfriend over text. It’s appalling how thorough and sincere he played his con.

Best part about this whole thing is that I kept seeing him for about a week or two after I found out about his girl. Just to learn what kind of crap he would say and try to pull. I invited him to a sophisticated party and told all my friends what he was doing just to laugh at him. Was also nice that this jerk took me out a few more times. Every time he asked to come over I said I had my period…all sheepish like and embarrassed…haaa…fuck him lol.

I actually tried confronting him with a couple of lies and it was kind of sad watching him squirm and try to get out of them. I sat across from this huge man with bulging muscles looking so pathetic and small. That’s when I decided to end it and tell him I knew about his girl. It just wasn’t fun. Wish people respected each other more. I mean there are hookers for escapades. This guy knew I was looking for something serious. He knew my dog was dying and my dad had just been in the hospital for almost two weeks nearly dying and he still could stomach just using me and taking from me. How awful is that?

I actually cried after I ended it because I finally thought I was close to having sex with someone. This guy had a great body too and was huge. I’m sure he could’ve thrown me around a bit. It’s been so long since I’ve had sex I don’t even feel like a woman anymore. Ugh! I won’t give in to any undeserving guy though.

Are you other girls in NYC encountering douchebags like this or is it just me?

AND his dick was small…haa, haaa…I’m the last one laughing. I’m seriously confused how a man so large could have such a below average dick. He was like 6’4 with size 14 shoes and ginormous hands. He didn’t fit in my bed lol. All that talk about a mans feet and hands in relationship to his penis can go out the door.

I’ll add that his girlfriend was a gorgeous fitness bikini model. She also seemed really super cool. So ladies when a guy cheats it literally has nothing to do with you. I’m pretty sure this guy Leo had cheated on every girl that had ever cared about him. He clearly has issues. Not mine to worry about anymore.

I really hope more girls read this and take their time to sleep with a guy. I have so many girlfriends that subscribe to the “4 date rule” which is bullshit. I went out on at least 6 dates with this guy and all my friends loved him. He was so charming. AND A FUCKING DICKHEAD CHEATER! He had conned everyone. All my friends, his girl, and me.

I take my time with guys and relationships and have sadly found out there are a lot of bad guys out there. My emotions and self confidence are preserved though. If all girls did this we would all unilaterally be pushing men to operate on a higher level and would have better men in all of our lives. Please girls don’t let anyone pressure you. We hold all the power before sex and after sex all the power goes to the guy choosing to commit to us. We all should be prolonging that period for longer than 4 dates. We need to start owning this market again girls. I’ll tell you that the guys in NYC surely are dominating and none of us girls are winning. Not the ones that are single or with boyfriends, engaged or married.

Help me get it together ladies…seriously!!

 

Update:

She’s since emailed me and wants to talk on the phone. She was actually grateful that I reached out, but obviously broken hearted. I’m glad I did the right thing here. I mean this is what the girl looks like. She’s gorgeous! No one should have to deal with this crap.  What a dumbass!

 

 

 

Jenn

 

 

Summer in NYC wrap up…please tell me it gets better than this.

10 Sep

So Again I know it’s been some time since I’ve posted, but I’ve had a busy Summer. Not as busy as last Summer, but still busy. I’m still single after almost 2 years and it’s been almost a year since I’ve had sex. I’M DYING! I can’t believe it’s this hard to find monogamous sex in nyc. I just want to be cared about, be able to share the ups and downs of life with someone and get fucked on a regular basis by the same guy and not have to worry about him messing around on the side. Why is that so f’ing hard!??

Let’s see, so the significant characters this year – to date – I guess would be 1. that same guy Mike J. from the 6th floor who has somehow become a good friend and weaseled his way into meeting my family. My Dad now has given his blessing if we get together…barf. So has his mother. Yikes! He’s a no go because he tried to make me jealous by getting with my friend then ended up sleeping with her and dumping her shortly after. Yeah no chance guy! Although I still think of him as a friend.

Then there was 2. Matt S. who I met all the way back in March out at a sceney club here in Manhattan. That came to a screeching halt just last week. Then there was 3. Benn G., then finally 4. Leo G.

Here’s the line up so far of my guy interactions this year, not necessarily just from the Summer. By interactions I mean making out and by making out I mean I kissed all of these guys. Only 4 of them were more serious where I was considering having sex with each one of them. Well let’s be honest…I “considered” having sex with all of them, but sadly did not with any of them…sigh.

Jon  33
Alexis O 42
***Shlok 31
***Matt S. 30
Sean J. 23
Steve F. 33
Mike J. 35
John J. 37
David 34
Benn G. 27
Ryzard C. 24
Guy from world cup 25
Joe C.  26
Steve  33
Random blonde guy ?
Abel 32
***Leonardo G.  Said he was 35, but actually 40

These guys all were educated and good looking. 4 were in investment banking, 2 were in private equity, 1 was a rugby player. Other occupations were insurance sales, Real estate, Psychotherapy, Art dealer, IT, Personal Trainer/Promoter (lol), lawyer and Doctor. The names with Asterisks are guys who had long term (we are talking YEARS) girlfriends. I met these guys a combination of being out in the city and on Tinder. I’m not mentioning the NBA guys house I went to in NJ because I wouldn’t kiss him. I did stay the night though. He was really young. Ugh!

I tried to focus my efforts more this year by sticking with older guys, but I’m saddened and kinda heart broken that 2 of the more long term/attentive guys (Matt S and Leo G) that I talked to both had girlfriends.

I have been motivated to write on this blog because of the experiences I’ve had with these two boys in the last 2 weeks. Mind you there has been overlap with some of these guys, but was only a week if that.

Please do read on….