Archive | September, 2014

Finale is fun, but I still have a headache

25 Sep

So I went out on Tuesday to Finale with my neighbor who is married. This isn’t typical Tuesday night behavior, but last week I busted her Two Timing husband bringing home a hooker. He’s a loaded bond trader, so not sure if she’s actually going to leave him, but she’s been itching to go out, so I oblige. I’m assuming she’s kicked him out for the meantime because I actually haven’t seen him in about a week. Tough place for a girl to be in, but you know my rule. Tell anyone and everyone if you see cheating. Also dude in your own home where your friend lives down the hall…smarten up you idiot! There are hotels for that.

Anyway, we call some promoters and get in fine. It’s kinda dead at first at 12 midnight, but within 30 minutes it was getting packed. Around 1 am you could hardly move. Screen Shot 2014-09-25 at 2.12.58 PM

The promoter named Krispie that we know had our group set up at a table upstairs across from the DJ. There were some really young banged up girls at this table, but who cares. They were pouring drinks for free and we opened wide. We found our selves standing next to a roped off area and assumed that was VIP. We are singing and dancing and a girl starts talking to us on the other side of the rope. We instantly become friends because she’s sweet and fun. She’s one of the managers at Finale and The General. Then another promoter steals us and invites us to his VIP table inside the roped off area. This always happens at some point thankfully, so we go in. All the sudden we hear that Shaggy is there and this guy named Snootie Wild. Shaggy I know, but this other cat who knows. Snootie starts to perform and I’m like omg I think I know this song.

 

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After Snootie Wild performs I see him next to our VIP area in another roped off area checking me out, so I go up and ask for a picture with him. After that he asks for my number lol. This is not the type of guy I would ever date. In fact any artist is probably in the undateable category. I had met French Montana over the Summer as well, but didn’t exchange numbers. I think rappers might have a thing for me…as well as NBA guys since I met Kyrie Irving over the Summer at Avenue and was even invited back to his house in NJ to hang lol. More on that later.

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The night that was supposed to end at 1:30 went till after 4am. I think I saw my girlfriend kissing some dude on the couch. Good for her! Bitch left me there though when we live down the hall from each other wtf. Who knows if she brought that guy home or not. I kinda hope she did. I myself ended up making out with some Dominican 23 year old lol. Awful aggressive kisser…oh well. I’ll add him to the list. His name was Iran lol. AND is Dominican!! How does that happen lol?

Anyway this debauchery has totally f’d up my week. Now it’s Thursday and the Thursday crew is all calling me up and wanting to go out. PhD is always a possibility, but I’m tired. I just want to find a guy that gives me a reason to stay home. Why is this so hard?! Maybe I should just watch a romcom and cry my eyes out…

….oh yeah no I can’t. I have another date tonight with a guy name Krishna that I met and made out with last week. He’s an Indian Hedgefund guy that was born and raised here. I’m not really into Indian guys, but he’s kinda cute and his personality is a lot like mine. We’ll see. Hopefully he’s a gentlemen and doesn’t ask to go down on me after an hour of knowing eachother…le sigh.

So that guy Chris from Mon texted me wanting to hang out again next week. I told him we were looking for different things and then he attacked me saying I’m too much of a party girl. Yeah whatever guy… rejection sucks…deal with it slut.

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New Date…FAIL!

23 Sep

So I go on a first date tonight with a seemingly nice guy from match.com. He’s age appropriate at 36 and we agree to meet at the Smith. His profile says he’s 5’10. When I arrive I see he’s more like 5’8, which is annoying. Still he looks ok and the conversation was really flowing, so I stay for 2 drinks.

I tell him I’m a conservative girl and I like to take my time getting to know a guy. I feel it’s necessary to tell guys this now because they all get inappropriate at some point. I always hope when I meet a new guy and actually like them that they stay a gentlemen all night. Most fail sadly.

At some point the doosey comes out about him having an 8 year old daughter and getting divorced 5 years ago. I’m kinda at the point that I’m ok with this now, just cause lots of people have kids at our age. So I ask him would you date a woman with kids and he aggressively says no. I inquire further why and he says because he’s not trying to get involved with that drama.  “I’m at the point where I want as few obligations as possible”. What an idiot! He wants me to consider dating him, but he would never do the same. AND he wants no obligations. What a moron! Yeah ok guy strike one.

Then he mentions he’s looking to have fun. Any guy that says anything about having fun is an immediate NO for me and should be for all you girls out there. He’s a “hit it and quit it” type and a waste of your time.

So we decide to call it a night and he kisses me outside of the smith. It was actually a really good kiss surprisingly. I know I shouldn’t have done it, but I have so few intimate moments in my life that a kiss can be really exhilarating to me. No it doesn’t mean I want to sleep with you or you are coming back home with me you twit. Which I’m sure he was thinking. Ugh!

He suggests going to another bar across the street and I go. There were no girls in the bar and I literally felt the guys swarming. 2 guys had sat right at our table across from us and it wasn’t even crowded. #weird

It’s getting late so I offer to pay the bill since he paid at the last spot. We leave and I start walking home and he follows me. He kisses me again. Another good kiss and I tell him I should get going. He’s like let’s hang out more. I might not be able to get home if 1st avenue is closed because of the UN general assembly. Which is true, but I went from annoyed to totally offended in 2 seconds. I totally called him out. I was like are you seriously inviting yourself to my place with this bs story? Didn’t you hear anything about me?

So we leave and he again tries to come home with me and then invites me to his place. He kisses me again and starts touching my waist and hips. I wore a conservative dress with a bulky jacket, so he couldn’t see my body, but I’ve determined it’s just worse this way to try and hide myself. Still the same result with overly sexual disrespectful guys trying to bang me after knowing me for hours.

He pulls me off the street and gets CRAZY with me all within minutes or seconds telling me he’s so hard and I’m so hot and he wants me so bad…he’s going to have to break his rule with me….yeah guy shut the fuck up I’m thinking in my head. Then he tells me he wants to eat me out sooo bad…I’m like WHOA guy, this is getting crazy. We are looking for different things. I have to go home. I’ve sadly had more guys than I’d like telling me they would love to eat me out. WTF?! Is this normal courting behavior? Why does this always happen to me? I mean match.com is a paying dating site right? If I wanted to get eaten out by randoms I certainly don’t have to pay for a dating service you DICK! I can walk into any bar and have that happen. Piece of shit!!

He changes his tone saying he’s open to seeing me again and would want to. What is this guy smoking?! Like hell I’m going to see him again. Fucking idiot!

This guy is an educated 36 year old that makes over 6 figures. He knows better. He’s an asshole and NYC is filled with this.

At any rate I just feel like eating sweets and sleeping in tomorrow. It’s useless. It seems like there are no good men left in NYC. Did all the mothers out there do terrible jobs? How am I constantly disrespected? Don’t tell me not to kiss the guy because I think there’s a HUGE gap between kissing a guy and talking about how hard you are and how much you want to eat someone out.

Tell me what I’m doing wrong please…I beg of you.

Leonardo G. cheating on his girlfriend of 5 years….BUSTED!

22 Sep

Let me begin with this:

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Yup you guessed it. Another guy with a long term girlfriend of like 5 years trying to get with me. Silly boys…don’t you know us smart girls will always find out. Let’s hope this woman is actually independent and strong and ditches the dude like I did.

This time it only took me a little over a month to catch on to this idiot. He took me out on a number of dates, stayed out with me past 2:30am a number of times, introduced me to his work friends, cross fit friends and jiu jitsu friends and sadly had a serious girlfriend. He may have even lived with her. The one flag was that he never invited me over to his place. He always wanted to come over to my apartment. Then had a series of excuses of being in between apartments and back and forth from Brooklyn, NJ and Manhattan.

I had seen him months ago on pof.com, but actually met him on Tinder. You may criticize me and say what are you doing looking for anything substantial on those bullshit sites, but I actually know people that have boyfriends from Tinder now. You never know, so that’s why.

You may recognize him or maybe it’s best you don’t lol…

Leo

I’ve decided my stance is always going to be to tell the other woman if I find out and I always do. I’m thankful I never slept with Leo although he tried desperately. We got pretty close though, which is why I went into high stalk mode and thankfully found his girlfriend online. I have to say ladies if your guy has a hidden or made up name or adds a middle initial on facebook and/or never posts anything about the two of you…he’s shady and most likely pulling tail on the side.

I’m thinking I will add pics of this guys texts to me, so you can see how good he was. I had told him I had never been intimate with a guy that wasn’t my boyfriend, so he even asked me to be his girlfriend over text. It’s appalling how thorough and sincere he played his con.

Best part about this whole thing is that I kept seeing him for about a week or two after I found out about his girl. Just to learn what kind of crap he would say and try to pull. I invited him to a sophisticated party and told all my friends what he was doing just to laugh at him. Was also nice that this jerk took me out a few more times. Every time he asked to come over I said I had my period…all sheepish like and embarrassed…haaa…fuck him lol.

I actually tried confronting him with a couple of lies and it was kind of sad watching him squirm and try to get out of them. I sat across from this huge man with bulging muscles looking so pathetic and small. That’s when I decided to end it and tell him I knew about his girl. It just wasn’t fun. Wish people respected each other more. I mean there are hookers for escapades. This guy knew I was looking for something serious. He knew my dog was dying and my dad had just been in the hospital for almost two weeks nearly dying and he still could stomach just using me and taking from me. How awful is that?

I actually cried after I ended it because I finally thought I was close to having sex with someone. This guy had a great body too and was huge. I’m sure he could’ve thrown me around a bit. It’s been so long since I’ve had sex I don’t even feel like a woman anymore. Ugh! I won’t give in to any undeserving guy though.

Are you other girls in NYC encountering douchebags like this or is it just me?

AND his dick was small…haa, haaa…I’m the last one laughing. I’m seriously confused how a man so large could have such a below average dick. He was like 6’4 with size 14 shoes and ginormous hands. He didn’t fit in my bed lol. All that talk about a mans feet and hands in relationship to his penis can go out the door.

I’ll add that his girlfriend was a gorgeous fitness bikini model. She also seemed really super cool. So ladies when a guy cheats it literally has nothing to do with you. I’m pretty sure this guy Leo had cheated on every girl that had ever cared about him. He clearly has issues. Not mine to worry about anymore.

I really hope more girls read this and take their time to sleep with a guy. I have so many girlfriends that subscribe to the “4 date rule” which is bullshit. I went out on at least 6 dates with this guy and all my friends loved him. He was so charming. AND A FUCKING DICKHEAD CHEATER! He had conned everyone. All my friends, his girl, and me.

I take my time with guys and relationships and have sadly found out there are a lot of bad guys out there. My emotions and self confidence are preserved though. If all girls did this we would all unilaterally be pushing men to operate on a higher level and would have better men in all of our lives. Please girls don’t let anyone pressure you. We hold all the power before sex and after sex all the power goes to the guy choosing to commit to us. We all should be prolonging that period for longer than 4 dates. We need to start owning this market again girls. I’ll tell you that the guys in NYC surely are dominating and none of us girls are winning. Not the ones that are single or with boyfriends, engaged or married.

Help me get it together ladies…seriously!!

 

Update:

She’s since emailed me and wants to talk on the phone. She was actually grateful that I reached out, but obviously broken hearted. I’m glad I did the right thing here. I mean this is what the girl looks like. She’s gorgeous! No one should have to deal with this crap.  What a dumbass!

 

 

 

Jenn

 

 

Benn G., my sweet 27 year old

10 Sep

bennMind you I’m 35 now, so I have no business messing with this boy. BUT Benn G was the really cute 27 year old that I went on all these NYC dates with. Central Park picnic, baking cookies, mini golf on the pier, Happy hours, Street meat. All so fun. I really enjoyed this guys company and by date 6 all of my girlfriends were pressuring me to give up some goods. At this point I had been back to his apartment twice for a heavier make out sessions, but stopped them each time. I did touch his dick once and it was surprisingly large and perfect. I’m pretty easy to please (physically) unlike most girls so size has never really mattered much to me with guys. Still a nice surprise considering he was on the slender side, muscular, but a little tall and lanky.

I got weirded out by this guys somewhat freak side. He carried cufflinks keys on his keychain and would always say how hot it is to put them on a girl during sex. I would joke…please romance me more, then change the topic. So weird! He was really good looking so I tolerated it.

Anyway date 7 rolls around and I invite him over to my place for dinner. He had earlier said he would bring wine. I slave over the kitchen and spend about $100 on groceries making skirt steak and crabcakes from scratch for him with roasted potatoes on the side. I made a bowl of fruit for desert. He comes over empty handed, so I say I don’t think so go across the street and buy us some wine. I knew that night was going to either be great or awful and I at least wanted to know he bought me something. I’m pretty sure I had shaved and prepped all areas full on thinking I was going to have sex with this guys after dinner. I knew beforehand I was going to have some kind of conversation with him if he was seeing anyone else because that’s obviously a no go for me.

I’m a gamer and have an original nintendo and xbox at my place, so we play some old school mario and then decide to get busy. We outgrow the couch and move to my bedroom. I ask him in so many ways if he is seeing anyone and matter of factly he says “oh that’s one thing I’m absolutely not wiling to do. Not going to be exclusive with anyone” I think I was stunned and disgusted at the same time, but kissed him and said well I absolutely cannot sleep with you then. Not going to lie it got a little awkward. I’m straddling him with my dress over my hips and thinking how the fuck do I get off him without being incredibly rude. We actually kissed a few more times because my vag and brain were having a ferocious hateful debate that my brain ultimately won.

I kinda rolled off him and told him I really liked him and I’ll probably make out with him again, but I can’t do this. He laughed and said he really liked me too. He left my apartment shortly after that. I was sad and disappointed, but what was I thinking with a 27 year old anyway?!

I had no desire to text or follow up with him and genuinely felt like a dodged a bullet yet again, but my vag was still really f’ing pissed. Weeks if not a month goes by. I distract myself with Matt S., the British Rugby player and a slew of other usless guys in the meantime.

I invite him and a bunch of people to a group happy hour and he surprises me and shows up.  A lot of people showed up and I had a new guy there I was loosely interested in. Same flirtation started we took turns buying rounds for eachother and then he ferociously made out with me as soon as we walked out of the bar. He was totally trying to kiss my boobs in the cab and I was like slow down. It was HOT though! He does this really weird thing with his tongue though that I hate. Ick!

Anyway we arrive at the next spot a guy friends bday party at Empire hotel. Was kinda a ghetto weird crowd, but good music, so whatever. Benn buys me a drink which I love because he’s so cheap. He’s acting all coupley with me then these girls walk by, not cute mind you, but probably closer to his age, say 30. He’s like hey nice seeing you guys you are so and so right. He proceeds to totally ditch me the rest of the night, which I hardly noticed because I was talking to a bunch of other people at the bday party, but after about an hour I’m like wtf. He walks by me and apologizes saying the girl might be helping him get a job. I don’t really believe it, but I don’t really care either because again he’s 27 and this is stupid. He’s just really cute. Ugh fml!

So I’ve scheduled yet another happy hour again tomorrow that he’s responded that he “maybe” going to on facebook. Maybe he’ll surprise me again and show up and we’ll ferociously make out again. Maybe not. After hanging with all these cheating guys he seems like a breath of fresh air that was at least honest with me. Is this what it’s come down to ladies of NYC? The cheating guys or the guys that just want no strings attached sex? I’m not buying either option, but it makes me sad that as a woman I have no one to be with physically. Makes me kinda want to cry though. I want nothing more than to have a man in my life, but they don’t exist here. Just stupid boy players that are even in their 40s. I feel like eating a box of chocolate chip cookies for dinner. In fact…yes I will do that and then run 8 miles at the gym. I haven’t yet gotten to Matt S. and Leo G which all just happened last week and this week. The cookie thing will make more sense then. I’ll save that for this weekend. As for now I’m officially playing Leo…hee, hee…fucker :).

Summer in NYC wrap up…please tell me it gets better than this.

10 Sep

So Again I know it’s been some time since I’ve posted, but I’ve had a busy Summer. Not as busy as last Summer, but still busy. I’m still single after almost 2 years and it’s been almost a year since I’ve had sex. I’M DYING! I can’t believe it’s this hard to find monogamous sex in nyc. I just want to be cared about, be able to share the ups and downs of life with someone and get fucked on a regular basis by the same guy and not have to worry about him messing around on the side. Why is that so f’ing hard!??

Let’s see, so the significant characters this year – to date – I guess would be 1. that same guy Mike J. from the 6th floor who has somehow become a good friend and weaseled his way into meeting my family. My Dad now has given his blessing if we get together…barf. So has his mother. Yikes! He’s a no go because he tried to make me jealous by getting with my friend then ended up sleeping with her and dumping her shortly after. Yeah no chance guy! Although I still think of him as a friend.

Then there was 2. Matt S. who I met all the way back in March out at a sceney club here in Manhattan. That came to a screeching halt just last week. Then there was 3. Benn G., then finally 4. Leo G.

Here’s the line up so far of my guy interactions this year, not necessarily just from the Summer. By interactions I mean making out and by making out I mean I kissed all of these guys. Only 4 of them were more serious where I was considering having sex with each one of them. Well let’s be honest…I “considered” having sex with all of them, but sadly did not with any of them…sigh.

Jon  33
Alexis O 42
***Shlok 31
***Matt S. 30
Sean J. 23
Steve F. 33
Mike J. 35
John J. 37
David 34
Benn G. 27
Ryzard C. 24
Guy from world cup 25
Joe C.  26
Steve  33
Random blonde guy ?
Abel 32
***Leonardo G.  Said he was 35, but actually 40

These guys all were educated and good looking. 4 were in investment banking, 2 were in private equity, 1 was a rugby player. Other occupations were insurance sales, Real estate, Psychotherapy, Art dealer, IT, Personal Trainer/Promoter (lol), lawyer and Doctor. The names with Asterisks are guys who had long term (we are talking YEARS) girlfriends. I met these guys a combination of being out in the city and on Tinder. I’m not mentioning the NBA guys house I went to in NJ because I wouldn’t kiss him. I did stay the night though. He was really young. Ugh!

I tried to focus my efforts more this year by sticking with older guys, but I’m saddened and kinda heart broken that 2 of the more long term/attentive guys (Matt S and Leo G) that I talked to both had girlfriends.

I have been motivated to write on this blog because of the experiences I’ve had with these two boys in the last 2 weeks. Mind you there has been overlap with some of these guys, but was only a week if that.

Please do read on….