Have you all noticed how many unattractive guys there are on all the dating sites? I’m talking match.com, chemistry.com, pof.com, eharmony.com. And why do these ugly guys always seem to be my match despite height, body type and hair type preferences. When I say no bald guys, I mean NO f’ing baldies! Also no one over 38 means that if you are in your 50s you are my parents age and don’t have a chance in hell with me. Go after people your own age you dirty creeps! It’s not that hard. Worse yet the somewhat decent guys, seem to want to get laid on the first date.
Who are all you bitches out there making these guys think that A. If they are ugly they can talk to pretty girls. B. If they have money that looks and hygiene don’t matter. C. If you are somewhat cute…I mean a 5 out of 10 you think you can hook up with me on date 1 and even try sleeping with me.? I don’t care if you have all the money in the world. Don’t treat me like an f’ing pro because I’m not. Go get a hooker and leave me the hell alone!
Girls I’m serious if we demand more from guys they will deliver or else be forced to pay for sex or get it from the strictly ugly girls. I don’t know any girl that has ever thoroughly enjoyed a one night stand…which it WILL BE if you sleep with him on the first date no matter what he tells you. They are awkward and sloppy. You can’t get off with a partner that doesn’t give two shits about you because he’s in it for himself. A two pump chump if you will. So don’t waste your time. Nor will he leave his wife for you so take out your moral compass and get your dildo out. Take care of business on your own before ruining a family over your own insecurities. You are better than that and don’t need to be validated by any guy that only wants sex or to make out. Validate your self with self-acceptance over the situation that you are better than this jerk and your true soul mate is out there waiting for you. If you can’t follow this simple golden woman rule do it for all the other girls that you will be screwing over in your wake after your one night stand. Men are sometimes stupid and they repeatedly do what has worked once and will make you feel bad if you try to reject this abhorrent behavior. Don’t fall for it. Give this new found jerk what he really deserves… a nice case of blue balls.
Guys…step up your game. Take a girl out to a nice place, get her a drink and buy her something to eat and keep your shit in your pants.
ThirtyFlirtyFit 
I completely know where you’re coming from and most insecure males won’t. Online dating is filled d with a high majority of beta males that will try to go way above their dating range, which never works.
And, the angry, deeply insecure males with fragile egos which are prevalent on dating sites and present in your comment section, because as butthurt people do – they fail to realize that your perspective is based on your experiences – not them and their fragile egos and insecurity.
I’ve had my fill of unattractive males with higher education expectations than they could deliver, ie: based on their pics they never worked out, we’re lying about their age, were not attractive to me; but they assumed that attraction online is one sided.
They will always want and aim higher than they’re able to, because many assume they should. That would be fine, IF they didn’t assume that they’re owed a response when the interest is not mutual. No answer should be an answer, but some will keep on sending message after message after message – assuming that persistence is key. They forget all about mutual attraction being key in online dating.
If people adhered to treating others like they did IRL than maybe there would be better odds. Those males need to think before reaching out to every single pretty girl that they see online; and first think: would she give me the time of day if I saw her IRL, if the answer is no, than there’s his answer right there.
Many have misaligned expectations online and want to date up, when they forget that mutual attraction is key. Both people need to be interested in order for things to work. Those guys need to stop trying to date out of their range and he realistic. And for the butthurt in the comments, it doesn’t matter if you wouldn’t date her, me or any other woman that shares those sentiments – you need to focus on mutual attraction and stop trying to date out of your range.
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I wouldn’t date any of you shallow women after reading your responses. I bet their are some good guys on these sites. Your list of unrealistic expectations is why you can not find what you are seeking. And why those guys are on these sites. Can you blame a guy for looking for someone to date? Same reason why you are on those sites. Yeah they match you because you take those test. But societal condition has screwed up your thought process. Guys are not supposed to be feminine and pretty that is your job ladies. I have dated good looking women that a screwed up inside. Its almost like you are saying “Uh what right does these men have?” Well what right does it give you to be there?
Not everyone is going to fit into your air castle princess. Not everyone is going to be perfect. Definitely not everyone is going to eat your shit sandwiches you serve. If you don’t like someone that fits into your self taught false perception. Then click next and move on. What irritates me is women that have this mental list of a unrealistic expectations that a man is supposed to be. A man isn’t supposed to do anything for your air castle, fix you or be your ATM Receipt. You all need to get a grip.
It wouldn’t matter if the guys all the money, well educated, has his life together. You will complain if your ice cream was too cold. A walking train wreck. I have dated shallow beautiful girls. You make me sick. I would rather date the BBW, nerd, or geek. At least they have something to talk about and offer. About the comment about dating other nationalities. I would rather date them because society hasn’t perverted them to the point to only look for shallow expectations.
I honestly believe that one day I will have to take my son to a museum to show him what a real woman looks like.
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I saw on pbs a woman with epidemic dysplasia who was a lonely model having been born with no hair and no teeth she was needing a man who is tall and skinny and has a big nose and maybe a crooked spine but is in need of thick glasses to be in her life.Just as anyone does.Are there any men out there that would be willing to look for her.matcmaker song comes to mind.
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Wow… From all of these responses I have read form ladies. You ladies are the exact reason why these men are on these dating websites. You live in a fantasy land. I am sure their are a lot of you ladies here that are losers yourselves . With a big ass list of unrealistic expectations that not even a good looking man could fulfill or amount to anything that you so called women desire in a non existent man. It is not anyone’s fault really. It is called societal conditioning. Everyone of us has been fed a plethora of lies about what you deserve. The reality is you are owed nothing, men or women.
You are matched with men on these websites because they answer the same questions “Yes or No” in the same answer. Just like the SAT test you took in school. Everyone has their own means, heart and feelings. Even if the internet didn’t exist. You will still have an excuse about why life isn’t measuring up to another fed expectation. The choice of chance is already taken away by this conditioning. What is the matter princess? Is life not the way you wanted it?
Lets use me for an example and I will tell you why I can not stand American women. I choose to date outside of my nationality. Lets make this clear. I understand their are few good women out here in America, enough said. For the rest like the shallow women that have left some severally ignorant replies. I have everything that a woman desires to have according to societal conditioning. I Am alpha, I have a career, I am in shape and all of those things that are at the top of your unrealistic expected list or thought processes. Except one. Apparently my face is not desirable. I have taken into consideration and done my part as a man to self improve. What comes into play is this earth shattering shallow expectations of what women want. These so called Ugly men are hear because you bitches cant get a clue. No matter how high that percentage reaches or if a man has his life together. You will always have an excuse. People can self improve but they don’t change. I can not stand American women because they have a unrealistic view of what a man is supposed to be.
Its ok, you are serving your purpose in this world ladies “Speaking to the shallow ones”. You are living and dwelling in a low self-consciousness of your choice. A life of negativity. Again its not your fault, societal conditioning, peers, parents, elders and which ever choice that you have made up to this point in your life. I am sure that their are great bald, fat disgusting men or what you call ugly men on these sites that you will never have the opportunity with. Simply because you are a train wreck. Because you are your own worst enemy ladies.
I have dated beautiful women. Who are a train wreck internally. They don’t have their life together and couldn’t punch their way out of a wet paper bag. Men are not supposed to be gorgeous or a cover of a magazine. I date women of other nationalities because they haven’t been subjected to lies, unrealistic expectations, this bullshit lie of a man or woman should be xyz. Or a matter of how large our bank account is, 150lbs full of muscle. Thank you princess may I have another shit sandwich!
I honestly believe that one day our children will have to visit museums to see what a real woman looks like. I really enjoy the nerdy girls, the so called losers in the women on dating sites. At least they can hold conversation other than getting peaked at the sight of an ATM receipt. Those good looking men you are seeking are already taken. For the rest of you women out here that think that their is this Magical princess wand made by Disney where your expectations of who should be allowed on a dating site, get a grip. Slap yourself with a wet trout. Do what you need to. Their are a lot of great guys out here. That are not on your list. Its sad that you have denied yourself.
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Remember I wrote about the guy Jose P. I dated for 6/7 months last year that was cheating on me the whole time (I caught him red handed at his apartment with her when he had spent the night with me the night before). He had a belly, moobs, thinning hair, crooked teeth, really dark skin, wore huge glasses, also grew up very poor and at the time was broke. What set him apart from all the other piece of shit guys out here in NYC was that he “acted” like a gentlemen. He never once said anything inappropriate to me. He was taller than me at 5’10, which is a hard find in NYC. He was educated, well mannered, a thinker, liked to read on the subway and listen to TedTalks. He called or texted me every day about something stimulating, not just “Hey”. He was a Financial Advisor with a seemingly solid client base. He never raised his voice and he waited months to have sex with me without pressuring me. Turns out he was a total con artist…had filed for bankruptcy years earlier and was cheating on me the entire time with a woman who was married, but younger than me. He turned out to not be a gentlemen at all. They deserved each other, but I didn’t deserve that.
Jose was attractive to me, maybe not everyone, but enough for me. He definitely wasn’t a 10 though, which is why I thought he’d be loyal. He had told me I was the girl of his dreams and I guess it was foolish of me to believe that. I feel like if you are attractive it seems logical to want to be with someone that is also attractive. You can measure this objectively with the amount of people that flirt or stare at you or even get nervous around you.
If this never happens work on your personality, charm and manners. I’ve quietly fallen for guys with wonderful personalities that never were brave enough to even try and kiss me. If that keeps happening over a period of a year you just has to move on. I’m still a girl at the end of the day and will always want the guy to be a man and make the first move.
Good luck!
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What do you expect? Why do you think all these ugly old fat bald white guys go to Asia, Russia, Mexico, wherever to basically buy a woman? Because they are LOSERS. And then they try and rationalize it by saying American women are [list of complaints]…Have you EVER seen a successful, handsome man go to a third world country to get a woman? There is a reason for that. Because they’re not LOSERS, like all these fat, old bald white guys are.
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Girls. Oops, I mean ladies, I have to agree with the guys about marrying overseas brides. I’m a bridal accessory wholesaler and I’ve seen very handsome lumber jack built like a mac truck guys with wive’s that don’t speak a word of English. But I’ll tell you, the only difference between American women and foreigners in not much. Yet those foreign women seem more attractive because they are humble, sweet, and innocent. No man haters. No expectations. No demands. The men are right that we are full of shit too.
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Um ok, just today I got an unsolicited dick pic, so yeah I’m pissed. There was no dialogue even from this particular bumble match. Not to mention all the married and engaged men out there that come to my beautiful city and think they can unload their trash and dirty deeds here. I’m sick of it! There is a huge difference between foreign women and American!! They are poor, uneducated and more or less willing to be slaves to men. They will tolerate what no American, self sustaining educated woman will not. On top of that they will be your sex slave, cook and your cleaning lady and not say a word! A man that chooses that isn’t really a man. A man is someone who actually wants a partner, not a slave/dependent. American women don’t need to deal with guys bullshit. These foreign women will do whatever they can do get out of their 3rd world countries. I mean it is better than being sold into sex slavery/prostitution, so I get it from their perspective, but fortunately I’m an Educated, American good looking woman that has a good amount of assets on top of all of that. I have way more power, choices and options than any of those women will ever have. I assert my right not to deal with bullshit. Hey I can easily marry some fine ass man from Greece, Italy, Brazil, Argentina or any where else. I want an American cultured man who has good values, is educated and has assets or at least not dead broke to be my partner. I want to look up to my man. The problem is that there are so few real men left.
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Preach girl! Couldn’t have said it best. I am the daughter of one of those poor uneducated third world country women whose mother to this date has so many damn regrets in the marriage arrangement she made. I am glad i am educated and self sufficient. I want a partner not a master!
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I gave up internet dating a long time ago, there were only the retarded old ugly short and fat ones who wrote me back
I’d rather be sinlge, virgin or a lesbian than ever date a similar disgusting fuk
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Haha…that’s hilarious! I’m kinda right there with you. I just went to a Women and Education Seminar. It’s a passion of mine to empower women around the world. I think I need to focus more on that than dating. I’ve been dedicating so much time to dating and have literally dated almost 1000 men in nyc in the 5 years since starting this blog. There has been one loser after another. And in fact I just realized that in 2014 there was one married or attached guy one after another. Unbelievable!
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It’s depressing. Ugly and older men approach me in the real world and online. I remained single my whole life basically. Except for that 5 to 6 month period where I lost my virginity to a crazy Latino man who turned out to have deep psychological issues(putting me down, calling me names, pushing me,he was sexually abused as a child and tried t commit suicide). Apparently only crazy and ugly men are attracted to me. I go to a top graduate research university and the attractive men seem to admire my smarts but never think about asking me out to get to know me better or acknowledges me and there are many attractive men where i live, they may take a gander as I pass by but they don’t talk to me. I don’t even bother anymore.l’m offline and just working on going to law school and starting my own business after my masters. At least I will be wealthy in a few years. And tell you the truth all I hear are stories about men cheating on their wives so I don’t know if its worth it in the first place.
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I think it’s healthy to focus on what’s working for you in life. Let’s be honest dating has never worked for me. Guys are too over sexed and I’m too conservative in a hot momma body. This blog has been a funny outlet for me. I wanted to know I wasn’t alone. I know I’m definitely not alone in NYC. Every single one of my girlfriends has been single for years with the occasional 3 month boyfriend. They are all are gorgeous too. The only ones with boyfriends are the ones that are the side piece or the girl is way better looking or younger than the guy. I’m talking 7+ years. That’s not for me.
Keep your head up and do you! You got this girl!!
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Die from cancer.
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This made me laugh. Thanks for taking the time to read Jack! Now go do us all a favor and pay for sex like you know you do ;).
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go eat a hill of snail dicks you repulsive bitch…
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Haaa…I just read this comment to my mom and we both got a good chuckle out of it. I especially like the zinger “repulsive bitch”. I had to think a bit about what a “snail dick” might be. Are you possibly telling me to go eat a bunch of small dicks lol? Made my belly hurt from laughing so hard. Thanks!
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Tee, hee…only if those snails are HUNG ;)!
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Its so true what the poster said, a lot of ugly ass, fat, bald gross men online seeking out pretty chicks……lol
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I want to like you, really I do but this post seems so incredibly shallow that I went from “in awe” to ” what a bitch”. I mean let’s be honest here; I am a thirty year old man, I look for love in all the wrong places and I’m not like any of the guys you seem to have such an appetite for. Maybe if you stopped willing every perfect looking guy into being Mr Awesome and just found someone who is a match for you, there would be no need for you self-centered rant that basically points a pretty little finger at all men. I for one treat my dates like I would treat my best friend, with respect. While I agree with you on the rampant assholishness of a lot of men, there are some damn worthy guys out there. They might not all look like Brad Pitt with an Adonis body but I’m sure they know how to treat a woman.
All that said, I still think you are interesting and will probably continue reading your posts. Have a great night.
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You posted this years ago, but I hope you see my response. As of late I have been going for nerdier guys. Still they can’t be really over weight where they have multiple chins or big guts. Also no hair is a deal breaker for me sorry to say. So is bad breath. The most recent guy I dated for 6 months to find out he was engaged the entire time. My girlfriends called him Harry Potter because of the huge glasses he wore. Let me tell you Assholish guys come in all shapes and sizes.
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Well what do you look like? I don’t see a pic so I’d need to know how you look before I can justify you refering to yourself as a “pretty girl”. I can tell you from experience that plenty of chicks do some shady stuff online as well, it’sa 2-way street. You just gotta be patient and laugh it off.
BTW, name’s Nick, I’m on dating sites, don’t think I’m a model but I’m not 45, balding and overweight and I’m looking for a girl I can take out and get to know. If that’s what you’re actually looking for like you say you are…
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Hi Nick! Thanks for your comment!! Obviously, I lay it all out on the line here and would be completely horrified if anyone I knew in real life associated this content with me. So pictures of me will NEVER go up.
I actually thought I wasn’t pretty for most of my life. When I was growing up I knew I got a lot of looks and I would always ask my mom why people stared at me. She would say because I was pretty and I was like yeah right mom. It wasn’t till I was living single in NYC these last 2 years and attracted hordes of different kinds of guys that I realized I must be pretty. I mean beauty is in the eye of the beholder of course. I’m more exotic looking. Not your typical Blonde hair blue – eyed girl. I’ve been told I look like Selma Hayek or Eva Mendes. And I have the curves to back it up.
I just had 3 different guys at a Halloween party…that don’t know each other tell me “guys talk about you…in a good way” “all the guys want to get to know you”. I mean that must be happening for a reason.
I’m torn because I have these fitness model types trying to talk to me in my building and online dating sites, but only want one thing. Then I try to be more open minded and date nerdier guys and they turn out to be assholes too. I’m almost to the point of giving up on finding a decent guy that wants anything close to monogamy and just start living my fantasy with these model type boys and saying to hell with morality and dreams. It’s time to start putting this body to good use. Ugh #conflicted.
Having said that feel free to send me a link to your pictures on my contact page. If you have IG maybe I’ll start following you ;).
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